The language of an MLMer makes or breaks everyone. The language of inclusion boosts MLM checks. Our success or failure comes down to the words we use and nothing, really, is more overlooked. Words are thoughts expressed and the highest form of architecture on the planet.
We are all familiar in the home-based industry with the word leverage; it’s really the point of the business. Yet very few people, even the top earners, learn to leverage language. The problem most MLMers have that are making money is that they are making money! It closes the mind and most top earners never consider what they may be leaving on the table.
I should know. I was like that.
The subconscious mind makes all the decisions, on this, there is no argument. Surprisingly, while there is no argument on this point very few people consider what a profound effect language has in our relationships with reps, customers, and prospects.
Psycho-therapists J. Mitchell Perry maintains and my experience validates that words are small objects that have a profound impact on objects they are directed towards…. Reps, prospects, and customers. In short, if you’ll read and apply what follows, you’ll find the language boosts MLM checks… for you and more importantly for your teammates.
INCLUSION AND EXCLUSION
In studying Perry I discovered there are two modes of speech.
One is inclusion the other is exclusion.
Example: Ask a kid and the parents, who just walked out of Disney World, how it was and the kid’s response will probably be “It was great!”
Most parents would say, “It wasn’t bad at all. It wasn’t a crowded as I expected.” Or. “The prices were not to steep, really not a bad deal at all.”
The child’s language is the language of inclusion.
He is telling you what is while the parent is telling you what isn’t. The child’s language is constructive while the parent’s language is constraining. In your prospects mind, simply put, one is GO the other is STOP.
Perry points out that most adults become habitual users of exclusion language, which is the vocabulary of doubt, absence, equivocation, and diminution. Ouch! Observation of my words proved this to be spot on. Double ouch.
I was stunned as I examined this further because the language of exclusion creates hesitancy, anxiety, and fear, which we all know is not good for prospects, reps we are trying to coach, or customers.
And I mean stunned.
Let’s face it, if we are going to make some money, we need to talk to people. This is a basic truth and a network marketing skill that is mandatory. But there is an additional skill that will separate us from frustration and that is our choice of words. If we discipline ourselves to use the language of inclusion it boosts our MLM checks.
SALES AND ENROLLMENTS UP 100%
Simply by examining everyday phrases that I used I was shocked to find out how much exclusionary language I used… Remembering that the subconscious mind makes all the decisions, I quickly saw why I was not getting a higher percentage of enrollments for myself and for my teammates.
COULD IT BE THAT SIMPLE?
I listened to myself and others for about a week, (horrifying observations!), then simply changed the phrases I used all that time from exclusionary to inclusionary.
Enrollment doubled. Case Closed.
Someone asks, “How’s it going?”
Do you say, “I can’t complain.” Or do you say, “I feel good.”
When a rep says, “Can you do this for me?” do you say, “No problem,” or do you say, “It’s a pleasure.”
When we say “no problem,” we are putting a NO in the person’s head and we are putting the word PROBLEM in their head too. Remember the subconscious makes all the decisions. We want them to say “yes” but we have put both the word “no” and the word “problem” into their subconscious about us or the business
By constantly seeding our language with inclusionary statements, even in non-business related situations, this becomes the ‘currency‘ of dealing with us…..and more people say yes more often to folks who exhibit ‘inclusionary’ language than exclusionary language. Inclusionary language boosts MLM checks.
Most people say, “no problem”, meaning we’ll do it but is it exclusionary language and the more inclusionary our words, the more people will feel included and, subconsciously, being included is what we all want. Being excluded is what none of us want.
This may seem minor.
SOCIAL PROOF: Do you want to be included or excluded?
Winners use inclusionary language and get more enrollments.
What is minor is the change that we need to make. What is major is the results that it yields.
Exclusion language, remember, creates hesitancy and anxiety because it’s based on, subconsciously, what isn’t, couldn’t, shouldn’t, can’t and won’t.
|Exclusion Language||Inclusion Language|
|I can’t complain||I feel good.|
|I can’t argue with that.||I agree.|
|I couldn’t ask for more.||I’m pleased|
|I don’t see why not.||Let’s do it.|
|No problem||It’s a pleasure.|
|That’s not bad.||That’s good.|
|That’s not what I am saying.||Here’s what I’m saying.|
THE BOTTOM LINE
W. Clement Stone, the man who made Napoleon Hill rich and “Think and Grow Rich” famous, preached that it was little hinges that swung open big doors. These tiny changes in vocabulary have an enormous impact on the subconscious mind of the people you are trying to influence and, the extended benefit is they’ll have an equally enormous impact on you.
People want to be a part of something bigger! Feeling included is bigger…..make your language inclusionary so your words, their subconscious and what you are offering are aligned.
Here’s what I’m saying:-), including phrases that land on others’ subconscious mind, that have a short, impactful positive effect, helps trigger the desire we all have to belong … and, really, the bigger desire to belong to something positive.
Want to go to a wedding or a funeral?
Want to go to the ball game with friends or to the dump alone?
Look, I’m pleased you
stopped by….er…. joined others reading this post… I couldn’t ask for more than a comment and sharing this… I mean I’m pleased you are considering leaving a comment… If you decide not to comment, no problem… It’s really a pleasure reading what you and dozens of other network marketers have to say about this post.