Sponsoring begins with You
As many of you know in 1993 I found myself a single parent, raising 2 kids on my own.
It was terrifying. Oh, I knew I’d get them fed, clothed and the rest of the essentials covered but that’s not really parenting, is it?
Within a 24 hour period, I was informed of a 25-30% pay-cut coming in 90 days to be followed by another cut of the same size in another 90 days. Ut-Oh.
Derek, my son, 16, had been living with me for a few years and Chelsea was 6 when all this happened.
So I turned to network marketing, something I had failed at 5 times, with great companies, in the 1980s.
Trying something you’ve failed at once is hard. With no company to blame, it’s even harder to muster belief. But 5 times?
I like to call it the ‘gift of desperation.’
I enrolled on September 17, 1993, and by mid-November, it was pretty clear (the proof is ALWAYS in the printout), I was failing again.
Then 2 things happened that altered the course of history for me.
The other thing I discovered, controlling my thoughts, was massive. Let’s be honest here. Everybody knows most people join MLMs like me – under tremendous stress money-wise or time-wise and in most cases, both. That described me. Perfectly.
People who say they work better under stress are full of crap. It is not true. Some of us thrive under pressure but stress is another animal and there is no debate on this one.
I was under stress and, like all people under stress, our thinking is not great all the time. I needed to get my head clear, free from stress and generate laser-like focus.
Amidst all the criticism, fear etc… I had to, I knew, sponsor myself. And become my top producer.
Reading to kids
We all know we should read to kids but we don’t always make the time.
Turns out, reading to Chelsea was one of the few moments in the day that I was ‘away’ from all those ‘fear’ movies that would run in my mind. With income going down and failing again at MLM, I had lots of scenarios running in technicolor that rivaled the Friday the 13th movies. Bad.
So we are reading Dr. Seuss and BANG. There it is. The mindset these 5 rules for Life created, coupled with the skills discovery, set me free of the bondage of self.
Rule 1 – Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.
In explaining to Chels how wonderful she already is I suddenly realized that my authentic self was who I was. Was that ‘you’ that I was going to be coming from fear or faith? And who was I really? Me. I cared and wanted to do better. Have remained loyal to that to this day. I am good and I want to improve every day. Not a bad “you.”
This rule has gained greater significance over the last few years for me as I, sadly, see people investing in ‘creating’ a brand for themselves that is clearly not them. Buying into some ‘system’ that will ‘build their brand’ because some alleged ‘expert’ convinced them they must have it to succeed is such a sorry ass, irresponsible pile of bullshit.
You don’t build a ‘brand’. In MLM you are the brand and really. Why would anyone think it’s a good idea to alter the Creator’s amazing creation that you are? Good grief. Internet presence? Sure. But really, what is a better brand than who you authentically are, right now?
Rule 2 – Why fit in when you were born to stand out?
There is no one on the planet exactly like you. So why follow the masses to fit in? You joined an MLM, just like me, to break from the pack. I would no longer apologize nor justify that choice. All this bullshit about being in ‘relationship’ marketing or ‘attraction’ marketing is trying to fit in with what others think. From that moment I’ve never hidden what I do, made it seem like something more ‘sophisticated’.
I’m a network marketer. I’m proud of that and don’t need different names, labels or concepts to mask what I do. Neither do you. You’ve got the guts to go for it… show that off. We stand out when we stand for something.
RULE 3 – You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
Now we’re into the heavy stuff. No wonder my son Derek thought I was full of shit. I was. Till that night. I kept telling him he could be anything he wanted by thinking about what he really wanted (brains in your head) and taking action (feet in your shoes) …but I kept telling him I couldn’t put the time into what I wanted, (MLM), because of work. No wonder he was sure I was full of it.
I realized the direction I had chosen was excuses and failing. I changed the direction that night. Decide to be successful or decide you’ll keep blaming, like me, the circumstances we created as excuses. Once one realizes every single condition in life is a result of Rule 3 we are instantly devastated and free. It’s a devastating awareness but at the same time, we are now free. Choose your direction right now and get busy moving in that direction.
RULE 4 – Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
Wow. Who cares if Charlie thinks this is scheme or Harriet thinks you’re nuts. They ain’t feeding our kids, paying the gas bill. Bite me, Charlie. You too Harriet. You don’t matter.
RULE 5 – Today I shall behave as if this is the day I shall be remembered.
Just love everybody, every experience. Drink it in. I try to interact with everyone, even if they aren’t interested, as if they are going to suffer a massive heart attack as soon as we are done. I want them happy, valued. I want to make their day better. Since we reap what we sow the last 19 years have been filled with compliments, prayers, kind thoughts, and encouragement. Curiously, conspicuous by their absence have been dream stealers, MLM bashers and non-supportive ‘friends’ who are ‘just trying to be honest with me.
What do you think? Of these 5 little rules?
Is there one, in particular, that would make a difference today?
Tell me about it below, I’d love to know.